Love at First Dance
For Ed Sconzo it was love at first sight.
“I went home from a Sweet 16 party, my mother and aunts were at the table having coffee, and I said to them I think I met the girl I’m going to marry, and they just laughed at me” Ed said.
He was talking about Maria, who he met November of 1955 at a friend’s party.
“When I looked across the room I saw this beautiful girl, in a beautiful dress and shoes, and I went over to her and asked her if I could have this dance, she said yes and we started to dance,” Ed said. “We danced all night, and talked, and I asked for her number.”
So how exactly did Ed know that Maria was the one after a single dance?
“You know it is true love when you want to be with that person all the time. I remember we were both always late to class, because we would meet in the stairwell to steal a kiss between classes.” Ed said. “I just couldn’t wait to get over to her house to be with her, I was always so excited to spend time with her.”
Valentine’s Day 1959 Ed officially asked for Maria’s hand in marriage and the two have been inseparable ever since. They have been married for 57 years and have 3 children and 9 grandchildren.
“I love her as much as I did on the day I married her, maybe I even love her more because I appreciate her more. The sacrament of marriage is for better or worse, and in sickness and in health and I take that vow very seriously,” Ed said.
It is a vow that took on new meaning in 2010 when Maria was diagnosed with ALS.
“The dynamics of our relationship have changed a lot. It’s very hard for her to eat so I have to feed her, I brush her teeth, I bathe her, I dress her, and I do everything for her. I don’t mind because when you love someone you would do anything for them,” Ed said. “That’s what the sacrament of marriage is truly all about.”
When the times get tough Ed says he just remembers how truly lucky he is to be surrounded each day by such a loving family.
“I feel like I’ve been blessed. I’ve been blessed with a wonderful wife all my life and beautiful children and grandchildren. I have no regrets, and I’m just happy that we are still together,” Ed said.
Ed said keeping a marriage alive for 57 years isn’t always easy. It takes work and compromise.
“My advice to any couple is to never go to bed angry, and be like a sapling and bend a little. Nobody is perfect – you have to understand the other person,” Ed said. “I would tell them just to love each other. If that spark isn’t there between the two of you then it’s not going to work.”
For Ed and Maria that spark has never dulled. It shines as bright as it did that day in 1955, when he asked Maria, for what would be the first of a lifetime of dances.
In honor of Valentine’s Day the ALS Association Greater New York Chapter salutes all of the beautiful loves stories we witness each and every day working with all of you. Thank you for your continued love and support.